Don't make me hurt you. <3
Originally Posted by Miburo
@Van-I guess that is okay if you didn't want to bother getting into a debate/discussion about it. You are a woman, after all. They're usually viewed as non-combative, I do believe. So it's all good. ; )
My issue with his point was that I felt any moron that has taken a Psych 101 should know that gender roles are entirely a social construct; ideals that only continue to exist because people continue humor them. If someone wants to debate something worth while, like how you cannot use the political realm to endorse religious discrimination, then sure, I don't mind telling someone why they're wrong all day. It's when some faggot that's insecure with his own sexuality or some nonsense that tell me, a "female," who suffers from just as many gender-ideal based criticisms and pressures that he has/does/will--a "female" that lives in a country where politicians are still trying to argue that the Fair Pay act is irrelevant and unnecessary, that still believes women should be home makers that pump out babies, that still needs to objectify women to appease the masses for media's sake...it's when that guy
tells me that I should never order food for a man, because I might bruise his pathetic man-ego, that I kind of just stare at him and go "hey, fuck you and fuck off."
I don't even identify with women***
, and I think gender identity is a complete waste of time. I shouldn't have to act delicate and soft spoken, or appear less dominant because it appeases males. If a man needs me to be less awesome because an assertion of my bitchin' personality means he's less of a man, then he is fucking pathetic. I jumped onto the "you can't tell me how to feel about this," because of several reasons, some of which include: he was trying to assert himself over me with his feels, and that's disgusting; he had no basis other than "other people make this a thing, so you should make it a thing as well."
So, in the case of the repulsively pathetic issue of "the male problem," how much, or how long, do I have to argue with someone about it before I'm allowed to say "let's just agree to disagree, because this is my 'opinion' and you're not going to change my mind"?
We've establish that we shouldn't argue whether or not chocolate is a good preference, because that's silly. So, I think what I'm asking is, when does a social issue become silly? Or any other intellectual "issue?"
*** I want to elaborate on this a bit just to add some perspective: I don't consider myself to be socially female. I don't necessarily think I'm a man, but I certainly don't think I'm female, and because our culture doesn't really allow for it semantically, when asked "what is your gender?" I say I am a man. But that doesn't mean I want to be an atomically correct man. I'm annoyed with my reproductive organs, but I don't want a penis, I simply do not think of myself as being effeminate, and because there is no word for "not a man and not a woman," I say "man," as it's merely more accurate than "woman."