Originally Posted by Tabris
[COLOR="DarkOrchid"]I only read like Half of all that.
I may be the only woman in the world who does this, but i ALWAYS make my intentions for a relationship (friendship or other wise) completely clear after like... two or three conversations, if not the first one. It seriously shouldn't take much longer than that for any woman to know if they are attracted to a dude.
Actually, it takes a lot more than that for me to know if I'm interested
in a dude. I say interested, because physical attraction is one thing, and being interested in dating is a whole different ball game. Just because I think someone is attractive, doesn't mean I'd date them. Three or four conversations is barely what I'd call an acquaintance, much less a potential partner. But that's me. I barely feel like I know a person after three or four outings lol. Well, maybe that has to do with being guarded and assuming that most people are the same, whether they realize it or not.
And if a guy is all like, I want to date you, after three conversations, I pretty much assume he just thinks I'm attractive and though obviously wants to get to know me, he's doesn't know me well enough to really want to date, and I find that it turns me off.
As for letting a guy pay for shit, sure, even if I just want to be friends. As long as I can return the favor at some point, I see no problem in that, regardless if he gets a crush or not. Most guys I'm friends with have shown an interest in me at some point... But they get over it if I'm not interested and the relationship continues or we drift apart. Generally they find someone else and we remain friends.